Fair enough?

The world is hardly fair. There are things that you want, but know you'll never get. Don't even try convincing me with the sort of bullshit like "You didn't try hard enough!" or "You don't want it badly enough!" or even "You know, someday you'll finally get it. All you have to do is persevere." Seriously, you need to wake up your idea if you're thinking that. Why not you look into the mirror and say someday you're gonna be as rich and successful and good-looking as Brad Pitt, then realise how silly you sound. You're welcome.

So when sometimes the world is not fair, we turn around and blame ourselves. We blame ourselves for being inadequate. We blame ourselves for being unable to complete certain things, even when we know it's not our fault. We blame ourselves for not being able to live up to "social standards", which is really very subjective. But that's not fair either. We don't have to blame ourselves for things that are not in our control. We don't need to feel bad just because we didn't donate to the poor souls who have suffered in the Sichuan or Haiti earthquake. The key to this is knowing that you have limits too. Never put yourself to think that people yearn for your help and solely your help. In essence, don't feel guilty for the things that you couldn't have done.

Then we realise that the world is never fair, and neither is blaming ourselves for the things that are beyond our control; so we blame the world. That is when we fall into a vicious cycle of finger-pointing, bitter arguments, jealousy, and unwarranted angst. Of course, when we blame the world, we don't literally blame the world. We blame those people living in this world that are seemingly better off than us - and that's perfectly fine, as long as it doesn't go way overboard to the extent that you hate your life and feel so miserable that there is a person better than you and stuff of that sort. In fact, a little jealousy is good. It motivates and encourages people to strive for greater achievements.

Sometimes I feel like I really have to talk to people to offload some mind-boggling issues. When I feel like this now, I want to take a break. But the people I can talk to won't understand, and the people who really need to understand - I can't talk to.